Marriage is often seen as the ultimate expression of love and commitment. Yet, behind the romance lies a practical reality: marriage is also a legal and financial union. That’s where prenuptial agreements come in.
While they’re often viewed as unromantic or pessimistic, many modern couples see them as a mature, protective measure. So, what happens if one partner refuses to sign a prenup? Should the wedding still go on?
What their refusal might mean
If your partner refuses to sign a prenup, it’s worth asking why. Is it an emotional reaction—feeling that the prenup implies a lack of faith in the relationship? Are they worried about fairness? Do they feel uninformed or pressured?
It may not be the prenup itself that’s the issue, but rather how it was introduced. If one partner presents it as a demand without discussion, that can understandably lead to resistance. However, if, even after thorough communication, your partner still refuses to sign, it’s important to consider what that says about your dynamic as a couple. A refusal might reveal:
- A mismatch in financial values
- A discomfort with boundaries
- A tendency to avoid difficult conversations
These aren’t small red flags—they’re signals that deserve serious reflection before entering a lifelong commitment.
Proceed or pause?
Having a prenup might be a non-negotiable for you—perhaps due to:
- Family obligations
- Business interests
- Personal principles
Proceeding with a wedding while disregarding your own boundaries can lead to resentment and regret down the line.
However, if the refusal is rooted in misunderstanding and you’re both willing to seek legal guidance and work out compromises together, there may still be a path forward.
If a prenup is important to you and your partner won’t sign, don’t ignore your gut feeling. It’s better to delay a wedding and enlist legal guidance than to enter a legal union full of doubt or unspoken resentment.